this year i actually talk to people more so i didnt have to deal with these problems before but now its making me realize how bad at socializing i really am 😭😭
ok first bro omg istg i have a hearing problem or something.?? im the type of person that NEEDS subtitles when watching stuff otherwise idk wth people are saying sometimes ☠️ but every single day, without fail, when someone says something to me i just cant hear them omgg its so embarrassing to ask "what?" more than one time 😢😭desperately need subtitles in real life. it pmo so much when i cant hear people right why does this only happen at school too
my next problem is i truly dont know how to respond to things a lot of the time HELPPP 😭😭😭 and im always scared to start convos cuz i feel like i dont have the ability to keep it going and if im the initiator i should have something interesting to say right but i never do 😢 the only thing i can do is ask questions or give short responses. how do other people converse so easily. its a mystery to me. i hope i figure all of this out one day so i can look back and laugh at my past self for being so quiet.
also sometimes i think im just the problem and its unfixable. even if i had no anxiety,.. like im so used to being alone, i like being alone cuz its my comfort zone and idk how to have friends anymore. seriously wonder what its like to have a group of friends where youre all close, arent afraid to be yourself and laugh a lot and go outside to hang out together. must be one of the best things in the world.
man people really dont know how lucky they are to not have anxiety fr 😭i overhear convos in school where people talk about how bad their (social) anxiety is but its soo urghhf. like this one girl who was the most talkative and sociable person in class that everyone liked was lamenting how bad her social anxiety is cuz she doesnt like making phone calls for dr. appointments n shiz😭😭and then everyone else at the table started agreeing with her and talking about how they feel the same. girl what... youve gotta be kidding me!
yo im ngl i think the hearing thing might also be a social anxiety thing or maybe ur just not interested cuz i was like that too before but now i think i feel like im more open-minded and actually listen to other people and now its like i can hear everyone clearly somehow
ReplyDeleteits ok not to respond to things sometimes u really just dont know wtf to say like.. in times like these.. i just switch the conversation over to something else or something slightly related (tbh i did a lot of work on this so its easy for me, just say something even slightly related to it)
dont listen to that brain of urs just talk ok? <3 <3 dont think (this requires a lot of practice) i used to overthink the hell out of conversations and what to say next like a year ago but now it all just comes out smooth i actually talk mostly like how i do at home
dont be afraid to just say something like if someone is talking abt something and u relate even a little bit just say like oh yeah i do that too lol while theyre talking it makes the convo more fun. aka dont just let one person talk or just let urself talk theres gotta be a good balance
dont worry girl this was me sophomore year and junior year. i thought i was unfixable too but somehow magically i improved a lot during the summer and this year. i just stopped caring. it took me like 17 years just to get over this thing. im deadass not even joking bruh i had social anxiety since i was in preschool
i am interested i literally just cant hear people 😭 maybe its the environment
Deleteokii thanks for the advice... i try not to overthink but i cant help it 💀 i was afraid of saying something thats a little related cuz i dont want to make it about me but if its okay then that helps!
also when i say idk wtf to say i mean it. like its not even 'oh i want to say something but i cant' i just dont have a response 💀😭brain COMPLETELY empty i swear my neurons dont work right
no for like the hearing thing u cant hear (i mean that u lose focus) because u keep thinking abt what to say next and how to look like ur interested
Deleteyeah i get what u mean when u dont got anything to say at all just switch the topic to something else thats completely random thats ok too or just sit in comfortable silence